Female insecurity 2

2. Financial status. Everyone has heard about how the rich feels superior over the poor and all that, very true. A lady that comes from a rich background usually has a high self esteem unlike a lady who earns her living by sweating for every kobo. Fine, nobody goes about looking timid but behind those high steel walls of emotion is a soft heart that feels every action done to her because of her financial status. Often, when these two classes of people meet, there is an underlying resentment from the rich which may not go un-noticed by the poor. Just the title ajebutter (butter eater) and ajepako(wood eater) is enough to stir up this insecurity.

3. Wrong impression: Some families and friends are fond of saying mean things in the name of jokes or correction. There is a saying that there is no stone without fire. Yeah, you intended it as a joke but she may have that lingering suspicion that she actually has that deformity or clause in her. I was once a victim in this category. I have the craziest of friends and I love them more now that I understand them better. Back in those days, we joke and laugh a lot, sometimes I bear the brunt of the jokes and we all laugh it off some jokes are more wicked than the rest. I am almost 100% sure that if my mum was there, she would laugh at me too. Next thing I knew, I was always wondering during my quiet times why they made those mean jokes ( I am not the only one who bore the brunt of mean hilarious jokes) and a tiny voice said maybe its true. Bottom line is that at a point I got angry angry and told them that they hate me and they are wicked bla bla bla. That almost cost me good friends of over 5 years. The shock on their faces made me re-think my statement. Later they told me that all they ever said was a pure joke and they wont joke about me, that they were shocked at my behavior etc Now I understand them , not only them, my family is guilty of that and a few other friends. I feel like a happier person and I truly laugh at jokes because I want to not just to keep up appearances. My  self esteem also got healed.

There might be other reasons but I will stop here .

Female insecurity

Hello, its a new day and we are up and thankful. The first thing I want to blog about is one thing I noticed among women and its the feminine insecurity. I have been a victim of that feeling which is very similar to inferiority complex.

 The first source of this insecurity stems from the body physique or body shape. Ladies are very sensitive about everything, lip color, hair length, height, shape, hips size, tummy size, body tone natural charm etc. I have even read a blog of a lady who was worried that her vagina did not smell like roses. As a guy, you might not even notice that there is anything wrong with this particular girl or woman, but this woman is jealous of somebody else and you do not see why she is jealous. Personally, I feel this is the reason why women feel more jealous of another lady than guys. Take for instance, Joy is a model, comes from a rich family and dates a guy most women will kill for, but she does not have a good hair growth and pink lips unlike Sharon who has a beautiful set of lips and an admirable length of hair although she is not rich or tall like Joy.The fact that this two ladies are not friends may be enough to start up jealousy in Joy. One day, Joy sees Tom her boyfriend talking to Sharon, automatically, her mind tells her that it is because of her beautiful hair and pink lips which she sadly lacks that Tom is trying to make friends with Sharon. Tom might have just been asking Sharon a question but someone is already dying of jealousy. It may not necessarily be this same story line but it happens.

To be continued .........................

Welcome to my blog

Hello, My name is Ruth, adventourous, observant and jovial. I created this blog this blog to have a platform where I can air my views. The blog title experience just popped up in my head and voila!, I titled the blog experience but coming to think of it, I hope to share my experiences and gain some experience by running this blog. Feel free to let me know what you think.